My life’s starting out on the wrong foot…?
August 11th, 2011
I’m almost 19, I recently dropped out of college, because I failed, and simultaneously ran out of money. I haven’t ever really dated, or had friends. Not because I’m not a good guy, or because I’m shy, but because I just don’t see eye to eye with people. I have tried joining social groups and it never pans out. Money is running out and I can’t even get a job at a burger joint. What is the sense of applying when absolutely no where is hiring? The job market is in a hiring freeze because of the economy. There are only so many jobs I’m qualified for that I can apply for. Networking is a great idea if you have people to network with… but I just don’t keep people in my life for very long. I’m sharing an apartment with a guy I can’t stand, and my mom is barely paying my bills. I don’t even leave the apartment lately. Atleast if you were out of a job you think you’d be making the most out of it, hanging out with people, which I just don’t do, and having fun. But I just feel so trapped, like I’m starting off on the wrong foot.
How do I break the cycle? I’ve been depressed for about 9 months, and it’s wearing my spirit down to a nub.
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Young adults often have trouble finding a “path” in life, but it’s much harder now, as you said, with the economy in the toilet. There are plenty of resources for people, however, like job counseling at your Department of Employment. Try to identify what your strengths are, what jobs you might like that ARE hiring. You should try to get back into college, and financial aid is still quite available.
Don’t just stop at what you can do NOW, but think ahead to what you might train to do. Many people get hired in related businesses (like carpenters working for landscapers or as handymen), start their own businesses (often your town or state offers start-up grants for this).
Also, anyone with a valid certificate in a field (like an IT person) is much more likely to get hired. One area that IS growing is the field of Human Services (like working with youth, disabled or elderly people). The pay isn’t great, but it’s often a steady job with decent benefits (also important).
If you find yourself REALLY unable to get out of the house, you could have more permanent depression and should get counseling. There are free or low-cost clinics if you have no insurance.
Try the site below for info on grants for youth employment and training:
http://www.doleta.gov/youth_services/
Don’t give up! If all else fails, do what my friend from Puerto Rico did during the Recession of the mid-70’s: move to the Caribbean and live on the beach! You won’t freeze or starve. I always kind of envied him…
First of all congratulations for being so honest and perceptive about your experience. Try to see in your mind’s eye lots of other people in the same boat as yourself. Guilt is often a useless feeling. You are 19years old and you are healthy. Please beleive me when I tell you how importantt that fact is. some Try to attend to this good health, and be sure you exercise, which does not cost any money. Also try to get some voluntary work. Employers look very kindly on that. I am really sorry that you had to drop out of college. Keep reading and drawing or playing music to keep youself going. Try not to worry about social networks. I am not in any of them and this has not diminished my social life. Be good to yourself and work out a good way of living for your present circumstnces. I find writing a diary helps. Believe me there is lots to do just keep looking for it. The best of luck
Things don’t always look very promising when we suppose we’re trapped and there is no way out.People and events happen to us.They are usually never there when we go looking for them,atleast unless we are the lucky few.So……not many share your views and it also seems that you do not take the time to get people comfortable with you.There’s only so much you can accomplish independently.There are jobs you’re not hearing about because you don’t know people who could refer you to the ones that are willing to have you.You wont lose anything just trying,to maintain relationships and an optimistic outlook.I know it’s difficult,when everything has been so dreary the last few months.but it’s up to you,to take a step backward,and start right again.You know you can change.Things dont remain the same forever.Dont trap yourself by standing where you are,doing nothing but waiting for something to turn out differently.Cut yourself through.Get out there.Push yourself harder,get into other people’s cycles and start moving.Force yourself into happiness.You will soon have a job and some friends who can relate to you and in time,you must even see yourself completing your education and getting better jobs to chose from and be happy about.Good Luck…sure you’ll have a wonderful life!!
If you are in the USA, there is a lot of federal money around to go to college and you should check with the college financial aid office about ways they would recommend you continue there if you want. Ask about the grants — PELL grant, scholarships, and student loans. Also, and most importantly, it sounds like you need to know God, your spiritual Father, then pray about your life. He can help you live a better life. As God is love, life is primarily about love and relationships in order to have a rich and full life. Also, you need to know God’s Son, Jesus Christ, in your life as your Lord and Savior as Jesus died on the cross as payment for our sins. Having Him with you will give you God’s blessing and forgiveness, as you live God’s way. We need to know and follow God in this life so we can go to heaven after we die, and so we can get God’s help now. Not following God leads to hell, eternal suffering. Instead, there is an important prayer to pray to become a born again Christian. This prayer should be said with faith in God and a sincere heart:
“Dear God, I know that I am a sinful person and I don’t want to be like this anymore. I know that Jesus Christ died on the cross as payment for our sins, and I want to accept Jesus Christ into my life as my Lord and Savior forever so I can receive God’s forgiveness, guidance, and go to heaven after I die. Thank you, dear God, for your mercy and guidance; in Jesus’ name. Amen.”
After saying this prayer, you should check out a Christian church like Baptist, Catholic, Lutheran.
Also, get into their Bible study group so you can learn more about God, Jesus, and God’s will for your life. The Bible is God’s instruction book about how to live a God-honoring life so you can go to heaven after you die. The church can also get you baptized and prayed for. You can pray for yourself daily too. God guide your life.